There have been times where we all hit a point with someone where we cant go on any longer, not because we cant (sometimes that is the case though), but because we’ve realized something or had a life changing epiphany. Once we realize this we take action without really thinking about what we’re doing and end that relationship now here’s the hard part…getting over them the only reason its hard is because we have become dependent on that person but one step at a time it is possible to get over someone
Acceptance:
1) accept the fact that you and your significant other are over and done for good by the time you hit a certain age that break up make up stuff is middle school.
2) accept that fact that you could possibly lose this person forever
3) accept the fact that YOU CAN!!! live without them
4) accept that you will most likely always care for them but know you can be without them
Accepting is the most difficult cause it requires insight and you have to reach into yourself and mind, and really detach the mental fixation of the other person you have.
Letting Go
1) let them go, imagine turning away and letting the phase “don’t look back” replay over and over again in your head
**if you can’t do this and look back chances are your feelings will comeback tenfold and tear you apart mentally physically and, emotionally. So once you start this process there is no turning back each time you do it will get harder
2) get rid of any and all things that remind you of them EXCEPT for your most valued possession of (this will be more explained in the end)
3) get rid of the thought of being with your significant other
Understand
once you accept and let go come to terms and comprehend that this is life
1) understand that you will live on (no one is worth you taking your life or being depressed over, or going insane over)
2) know that there are millions of people in this world and that he/she was not the one but the one of many (you will know who “the one” is at some point in your life)
3) understand that he/she may have left you or you left him/her its OK that’s just life. Pain is a part of life and will happen to all of us
4) Understand that you are amazing and someone is out there just for YOU
5) do not close your self understand that not everyone will do this to you not all people are the same
Taking a break Distract yourself
1) stop worrying about men/women they will always be here
2) start focusing on your life apart from relationships
3) hang out with friends and avoid his/hers
4) take on some new activities
you get the picture
Get Closure
1) when you think..actually when you KNOW you’re strong enough and have enough mental toughness say whatever you have to say
2) don’t be an ass/bitch about it just get whatever you have on your chest off
3) don’t hold back and say your goodbyes
*do this before you start to see another or you’ll be in a never ending spiral of fucked up relationships trust me I’ve seen it happen too many times
4) relieve all and any type of tension
5) have no regrets. a constant regret is like mental suicide
Move on
1) be happy
2) dont be afraid to explore with new people
3) dont hold your gaurd to high
4) its ok to talk and be with others
6) don’t worry about what your FORMER significant other thinks
7) Take that very important possession from your former significant other and destroy it or burn it, but not in spite or hatred. but to show that you’re free of them and they are not a factor anymore. Its like breaking that last chain that will finally set you free
8) move on with your life
some might think oh wtf this kid right here doesn’t know what hes talking about..well I do and Im not a kid I’ve been through the process and delivered it to others and they have turned out happy so take it or leave it
